So What Is Trauma Bonding Anyhow?

Old Alan there yesterday got me thinking about trauma bonding.  Then there was the purple dinosaur cartoon. Sorry about that.  

If you look it up online you will get this:

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/trauma-bonding/

What Is a Trauma Bond?

"A trauma bond is a close attachment formed between a perpetrator of abuse and the person they perpetrate against. The dramatic ups and downs of the relationship can result in a powerfully unhealthy bond. In order to survive, trauma survivors develop a keen awareness of everything their perpetrator does, says, and wants."

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It seems to me that the bond resulting from trauma like that, is a kind of obverse or infernal version of the acquiescence to discipline.

I am not sure that the therapeutic types believe there is any such thing as righteous discipine.  We do, though.

How can you tell if what you are experiencing is discipline or abuse?  Um, who is the active party?  That's one clue.

What is the end result?  Is it that good fruit we hear about, or is it that skulking dependence on the good opinion of some person or other power that has control over one?  I think by this time in our lives that we have probably experienced both.

The most common version of this, or the biggest one, going on now, is the terror caused from seeing or reading the news every day.  One knows they do that to one on purpose.  One is meant to be afraid and dependent.  

Also, if all this stuff shoved at us, per Watt, isn't our real lives, what are our real lives?  Is it our native experience, as lived privately?

How can I sense what is real and what is not?

             FATHER, help us find our real lives and true freedom!